Yes or No: Be Honest With Your Time



Time Management and the Issue Of Integrity

There are many time management books on the market and this tells me two things: 1) North American’s have problems with managing their time, 2) These are popular books or else there wouldn’t be so many available for sale. I typed “Time Management” into the Amazon search section and there were 155,491 results. One would have to develop some serious time management skills in order to go through all those books and choose one.

People have shared with me their stories of  doing poorly with time management tools. When people ask me which ones are best, I tell them that what’s best for me isn’t necessarily going to be best for them. Different authors and organizational specialists have different techniques and theories about time management. The simplest answer I give people, is to be honest with yourself and choose the method that you will actually commit to.

Commitment authenticity

I use my smartphone for my calendar. All of my appointments go into this electronic calendar and then I immediately without interruption write the information down in my Moleskine day planner. If you’re wondering why I use two tools, my main reason is that the battery for my lovely $700 Samsung SG3 dies on a daily basis. I don’t trust electronics 100%, so I am still old fashioned in writing down appointments, notes, and other necessary information.

On a spiritual level, I believe that keeping a day planner is important, not only for keeping track of what we need to do during the day, but also to keep ourselves committed to what we say we will do. If you make an appointment to see the dentist, then it’s important to keep that appointment and be on time. When you don’t show up, you have taken away income from a team of people and prevented others from having that same time slot. When you say that you will have something completed and ready by a certain date, know that people are relying on you and expecting you to follow through.

Commitment action

Matthew: 5: 33 “Again, you have heard that it was said to those of ancient times, ‘You shall not swear falsely, but carry out the vows you have made to the Lord.’ 34 But I say to you, Do not swear at all, either by heaven, for it is the throne of God, 35 or by the earth, for it is his footstool, or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the great King. 36 And do not swear by your head, for you cannot make one hair white or black. 37 Let your word be ‘Yes, Yes’ or ‘No, No’; anything more than this comes from the evil one.”

I won’t be quick to say that it is the “evil one” that is causing you to not be able to commit to your “yes” or “no”, but rather it is the ADHD that is causing you to have trouble with remembering your commitments, and realistically managing your time. I believe that over time people with ADHD can learn to practice the power of “no” and limit their “yes”.

Below is a link to an article with some good tips on the power of 1 in helping you to choose a proper time management-day planner system.


Prayerfully consider how many times in a given week you miss committing to “yes” and neglect to say “no”. If there are people you have let down or have forgotten your commitment to, don’t be afraid to send them a text or email and apologize. Time management is not easy and it will take time to learn what we can handle with the limited waking hours that we have. When you find a good day planner, be conscious of how many “yes’s” vs “no’s”  are scheduled into your week.


Commitment no