ADHD Forget Me Not!

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The ADHD Promise

Psalm 119: 15-16 “I will study your commandments and reflect on your ways. I will delight in your decrees and not forget your word.”

Sometimes people with ADHD are known to not be consistent with following through on their promises. There are a variety of reasons for this such as becoming overwhelmed with over commitment, hyper focusing on one activity and losing track of time, not remembering appointments and meetings, and a number of other reasons.

As Dr. Sam Goldstein explains in an article from Everyday Health online, “By its nature, ADHD leads to forgetfulness. People with ADHD have problems doing what they know in a consistent, predictable, independent manner. They often miss the cues in the environment necessary to shift or adjust their behavior. This leads them to forget things, things they know they should do. We now understand that the biggest problem for people with ADHD is not so much an inability to pay attention but an inconsistency in paying attention, which leads one to forget.

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Forgetting is a part of life, even the important things are sometimes forgotten, even an important activity like spending quiet time with God.

I wish I could say I was consistent with my spiritual quiet time, but I am not. There are times when I am consistent with setting time to connect with God in prayer and devotional reading and then there are those days when I only remember as I am rushing out the door, or just hitting the pillow in exhaustion.

I can’t stress enough the importance of having our spiritual quiet time. For those of us with ADHD it is even more imperative to our well-being that we not forget to take quiet time to connect with God and recharge. Through these connections we allow the Holy Spirit to slow down the racing thoughts in our minds or step away from our hyper focus. Time with God helps us to develop wisdom, discernment, patience, joy, and peace. Our time of prayer and devotion is a way to strengthen our character and bring some sense of order to our day.

God is not like humans, he will not be angry or upset with us for forgetting to meet with him. Unlike others, he will not text us non-stop or call us with a frustrated reminder that we forgot to meet him. With God he is always with us, therefore, the onus lies with humans to make the move towards connecting with God.

God doesn’t go anywhere, we do!

Let’s make the most of having this constantly loving God who is always full of grace. Make it a priority to not forget to spend time connecting with him on a daily basis. There doesn’t have to be a specific time or method; what’s important is remembering to make time for God.

Some ideas:

  • Find a consistent time of day for prayer/devotionals. To avoid missing this time, set an alarm (on your phone, computer, watch, etc.) and when it goes off, stop what you are doing and tend to your prayer time.
  • Use your smartphone for bible or devotional reading. By doing this you will have your “bible” and devotional reading with you wherever you go.  You can even send yourself emails and texts and when your notification makes that noise, you’ll stop to check your phone and bam!, it’s a bible verse or devotional for you to read.
  • Place different bible verses on your desktop. While at your computer, you can take a break and meditate on a verse from your desktop.
  • Stick verses/devotionals on your bathroom mirror and have prayer time while you brush your teeth or remove your makeup at night.

You know yourself best, find a method that works for you, and remember, even if you forget about God, he never forgets about you. There is no punishment, just unending patience, grace, and love on God’s end.

Psalm 119: 15-16