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ADHD and the 2016 U.S. Election

This 2016 U.S. presidential election has been a real struggle in ADHD management. Those impairments of executive functions are really being tested. During what has turned out to be a bizarre, almost unreal, circus-like election campaign has tested the emotional control of people all over the world. A U.S. election is never only about Americans; the person who is elected President of the United States of America has an impact on the entire world.

The most frequently asked question in my neck of the woods went from “What do you think about Trump?” to “Can you believe Trump said that?” Personally, I’m not surprised by anything Donald Trump says, what surprises me is that he is so comfortable saying such things without any concern about how it might impact others.

From time to time I struggle with keeping my emotions in check regarding this current election. Nothing that Trump says surprises me, NOTHING. So when others around me are acting as if this is all a surprise that people believe and support the outlandish beliefs and actions of Trump, I want to ask those who are in shock, “Where have you been for the past decade?” Sexism, misogyny, racism, anti-Islamic myths, and obnoxious people have always been around and are written about in the media constantly.

This election can be difficult for people with ADHD who want to engage in civil, respectful, discussions where everyone gets to be heard and not demonized for who they have given their political support to. But the emotionally tense nature of this campaign can make it even more difficult to manage ADHD symptoms. We can be tempted to interrupt those we disagree with; we face difficulty modulating our emotions and returning to tasks after heated discussions; and it is a challenge to sustain attention to long drawn out political discussions and news articles in the media. There is also the challenge of preventing your political thoughts from being blurted out at inappropriate times and places.

This blog post that I am linking here was first posted in the Globe and Mail (a national Canadian newspaper). Dr. Gabor’s reflections on both Clinton and Trump are great food for thought and provide some insight into possible reasons why both candidates behave as they do.

I don’t know who is going to win the 2016 election. In my heart I wish America could go back in time and pick two completely different candidates; but time machines don’t exist and no President will ever be a perfect leader. My hope is that Americans will go to the polls and vote. Don’t be a political couch potato, sitting around having heated discussions with others and the television, but never taking action.

 

 

ADHD and Thanks-Giving

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As followers of Christ, every day is a day for giving thanks, but what makes Thanksgiving Day different is that you have one day where the entire nation collectively gives thanks and acknowledges the good things they have in life, be it family, friends, material goods, or health.

I’ve always believed in the importance of cultures and communities having holidays for remembering and acknowledging the past and the present. Thanksgiving is a holiday that always reminds me that we can always find the good and the positive in the midst of struggle and injustice. I see the systemic injustices and atrocities that are occurring in other parts of the world and I can’t not help but give thanks to God for being fortunate enough to live in North America.

So this year I encourage you to give thanks for something no matter what your circumstances are right now. Collectively as Americans we have plenty to give thanks for. Thanks be to God!

Give thanks Lord

As I was preparing to write this blog entry I had to stop and think about whether or not there really was anything to be thankful for in terms of having adult ADHD. Well, I found some!

ADHD and Things to Be Thankful For

Energy. When used properly, the energy we get from having ADHD allows us to accomplish a lot of things, sometimes more than the average person.

Creativity. When your mind is constantly thinking of multiple things at the same time and always on the go, you can end up developing a lot of ideas that are “outside the box”. For those who are ADHD day dreamers, you can sometimes turn those dreams into very creative ideas and concepts that others might not have thought of.

Adventurous. Sometimes ADHD gives people the ability to combine their energy and creativity which results in an adventurous spirit; think Richard Branson.

Knowledge. One of the best things about the ADHD attention span is that when we’re interested in a topic, subject, hobby, or activity, we delve in deep. Ask us anything you want to know about something we are interested in and we will likely have the answer; just be prepared for a long, animated, and passionate answer!

Medical care. Being finally diagnosed with ADHD as an adult has changed my life in too many ways to mention in this short post. I am thankful for doctors and psychologists who have studied ADHD and contributed to medical advances in the treatment of ADHD. Over the years I have taken medication for ADHD, but more helpful than this has been the alternative treatments that I’ve used to help manage my symptoms. I am also thankful to have assistance with covering the high costs of prescriptions. Mindfulness, meditation, and exercise have proven to be effective means for controlling my worst symptoms. I am thankful for those who teach and share these alternative methods.

Having rights. Having ADHD recognized as a disability in the workplace and educational institutions is important. I don’t think I would have made it through college if there wasn’t a department for students with disabilities. The specialists helped me stay focused and accountable; I was also able to take exams in a separate area so I wouldn’t disturb other students with the constant clicking of my pen, the shaking of my legs, humming, and my need to read things out loud. In the past people with ADHD weren’t recognized as having a disability and it made life more difficult for them than it had to be. Today, things have changed and I am thankful for this.

My list is not going to be the same as yours. We all have varying degrees of symptoms and different life circumstances; but I encourage you to take time this Thanksgiving season to make your own mental or written list of ADHD related things that you are thankful for. Having adult ADHD isn’t always easy, but there is always something to be thankful for.

Happy Thanksgiving!

 

ADHD and Easter

ADHD Easter

I love the Easter season for many reasons: the bright colours, the anticipation of Spring arriving, the music, and of course the celebration of the Resurrection. For an ADHD person like myself, all this excitement is a great opportunity to get into ADHD trouble.

Easter can be overwhelming; I want to celebrate the end of Lent, do days’ worth of crafts, attempt to make traditional baked goods, walk the Stations of the Cross and fit in the 2-3 church services that are crammed into the long weekend. I’m not embarrassed to say that all of this is a to-do list/wish list combination which I have never managed to achieve. At this stage of my life, I’m cool with this failure.

Easter holidays can easily test the time management and planning skills of even the most organized person, but for those of us with ADHD, we can easily become overwhelmed, stressed, agitated, and forgetful in the midst of preparing for the festivities.

The main reason I was able to end my past whirlwind Easter activities was by remembering what the festivities were truly about: the resurrection of Christ, and the greatest gift God has given us, that of salvation. When we stop focusing on getting things done, we can slow down enough to place our thoughts and our hearts on God and Christ. This is thee most important time of the Christian year and somehow we’ve fallen into the consumer trap of turning a sacred time into a commercial time, no different than Christmas holidays.

I’m excited to share with you some simple ways to keep Easter ADHD friendly and focused on Christ.

Easter Sunday, Keep It Simple

Meals

-Does your church have a free Easter meal? Consider skipping cooking at home and instead join others at church for the meal and some fellowship.

-Do you really need a turkey? It’s Easter, it’s warmer outside and you might not want your time spent in an hot kitchen. If you eat ham, consider baking one or two in lieu of the turkey. You might even want to try making a beef roast.

-If you think cooking anything might be overwhelming on Sunday, consider going to a restaurant instead. Find one in your price range and celebrate by going out instead of eating in.

easter-eggs

You’re Not Martha Stewart, You Don’t Have a Staff Team

-Crafts are fun, but if you are craft challenged or don’t have much time, purchase plastic eggs and items that are already decorated. If you are limited for funds, there are always plenty of options at dollar stores.

Treats are Sweet, but leave you beat

-Sugary, heavily processed candies are not a healthy choice for those with ADHD. If you can avoid the excitement and temptation of all those cute little bunny chocolates and colorful treats, excellent! If not, then try setting a realistic predetermined limit to how much you will consume. If you know which treats are your biggest weakness, make a plan to limit or avoid eating it altogether. You mind a body will function much better without all that processed sugar.

Rest is for the Blessed

-Don’t’ forget to get some rest during the holidays. Consider taking one of the days to sleep in or go to bed earlier than usual. Either of these options will ensure that your holidays are truly a time of rest.

-If you can’t fit in an activity or time to visit others, that is perfectly alright. You know your personal energy levels and it is best to be honest with others and say, “I want to, but I can’t this time around.”

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The Reason for the Season, this Includes Easter too!

-Keep Easter focused on Christ and his resurrection. If you are able to achieve this, your Easter holidays will not be about anything else. Jesus was never scattered or hurried, he didn’t multi-task, and he stayed focused on the purpose of what he was doing. Whatever he chose to do, he stayed fully mindful and present for those he was with. Let us learn from Christ and follow his ways when it comes to living a life of mental and physical peace.

May the remainder of this Lent season be filled with blessings, a renewal of faith, and gratitude for all the God has done for us and will continue to do for His creation. Peace.

ADHD and Small Group Studies

 

When you have ADHD sometimes paying full attention during small group studies can be a real challenge. Despite being interested in the topic and discussion, the mind can easily wonder. Being in a smaller setting makes it even more noticeable to others when you are not paying attention.

I have completed over 10 Beth Moore bible studies, but I can’t handle watching her videos; some of which are over an hour long. I lose focus less than 15 minutes into her talking. Thankfully I have her workbooks to keep me on track with taking notes. I find that it is much easier for me to watch her videos on my own during the week where I can stop them and take breaks instead of watching her talk continuously for over 60 minutes.

I’ve also been part of small groups where we take turns reading chapters directly from the bible or a book; this type of small group does not work well for me as I become impatient and then struggle with the urge to read ahead.

Our struggles are individual and varied, however, you’ll know you’re having trouble in your small group if you experience the following:

-Daydreaming

-Forgetting what it is you had intended to say in the midst of your discussion

-Interrupting others while they are talking

-Impatiently waiting your turn

-Fidgeting

-Reading your bible or small group curriculum instead of watching the DVD that is playing

-Growing easily bored with the topic your peers are discussing

Disclosure is important, if you trust your small group leader or facilitator, let him/her know ahead of time that you have trouble with Executive Functioning as a result of ADHD. Share with your facilitator some of the habits you might display so they know that you are not doing these things consciously or intentionally. When people don’t know about ADHD it can be easy for them to dismiss your symptoms as disrespectful or inconsiderate. You don’t have to share your diagnosis with others in the group, but I find that if they understand your challenges, it helps to decrease misunderstandings.

There are ways to help manage your symptoms during small group sessions:

Time: Consider what times of the week and days are best for you. Maybe it is better for your to meet in the morning instead of an evening session where you are more likely to be tired, and your medication is starting to wear off. Are your times together long and drawn out, or is it short, yet effective?

Be mindful of the study format: Does this group prefer book-only studies? Are they DVD oriented? Are there workbooks where you can do personal study during the week or take notes while you are with the group?

Physical Environment: Where is the group meeting? In a home, a coffee shop, or in a church facility? Consider any additional distractions such as pets, small children, or customers if you meet in an eating establishment.  If these types of environments don’t work well for you, consider finding another location.

The people: Yes, as Christians we are to get along, but that does not always happen. With ADHD, it is easy to become irritable, withdrawn, easily frustrated, and emotionally distant. If you don’t mix well with the others in the group there is nothing wrong with seeking out a small group with peers who you have more in common with or get along with. ADHD in adults is still misunderstood within our North American culture, and if those in the small group are not considerate and understanding of your symptoms you will have a difficult time with being in a community with these individuals. If those you are in a close group with are not accepting of you, it will make it a challenge for you to learn and grow in your Christian walk.

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No New Year ADHD Resolutions

Welcome to 2015! The holidays are over and our schedules and routines have returned to normal. For those of us with ADHD, the Christmas season can easily become an overwhelming time of disorganization, adjusting to schedule changes, and having our already fragile executive functions challenged. The New Year finally arrives and we are bombarded with adverts, websites, blogs (mine included) and magazines promising to help us make massive life changes this year and forever.

It has been my experience that new year’s resolutions are not a good option for those with ADHD.

Resolution is defined as:

“: the act of finding an answer or solution to a conflict, problem, etc.: the act of resolving something”

Resolving: “the act of analyzing a complex notion into simpler ones; the act of answering (solving); the act of determining”. (Source: Merriam-Webster Dictionary)

ADHD is not something that can be “solved”. I along with many others who struggle with their executive functioning skills would be more than happy to resolve to no longer have ADHD and follow the plan, take the medication, or have the surgery that would forever rid us of this struggle. I’ve never heard of someone making a New Year’s resolution to stop having ADHD; you’d be foolish to attempt this impossible feat.

NYR unattainable

A more realistic way to approach the beginning of 2015 would be making time to do some self-analysis. Ask yourself some key questions about your past year and as you do this invite the spirit of the LORD to help guide you towards an honest reflection. The management of ADHD symptoms can’t be reviewed and addressed in a similar fashion to those who make meaningless resolutions. People who make New Year’s resolutions can afford to fail at them or even forget what they were a few weeks later; they can do this because their resolutions don’t matter, however, our ADHD does matter.

I don’t want to write what has already been written, so instead I will share a link with you from Laurette Willis of PraiseMoves. Her post is addressed for 2014, but there is no time limit on what she has written; it applied last year and it is still applicable in 2015.

Willis follows what she refers to as SMART-ER Goals.

S-Seek God

M-Make a Commitment

A-Ask

R-(w) Rite: the vision

T-Thank God in Advance

E-Expect

R-Receive  

http://praisemoves.com/2013/12/your-smart-er-goals-for-2014/

http://praisemoves.com/goals.pdf

Well… Happy 2015! My hope is that you will have continued growth in your utilization of your faith in God as a resource for managing your ADHD symptoms. Medication helps with brain function, our faith helps us with our spiritual self. These are two areas that don’t need to be at odds with each other. Wishing you a year filled with growth and transformation in your life. Hopefully over the next 50 weeks you will find something of value on my faith based ADHD themed blog that will be of help to you. Peace.

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ADHD and Sabbath Living

Spiritual Disciplines and ADHD: A Series

Part 3 of the ADHD and Spiritual Formation Series

Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy. Six days you shall labor and do all your work, but the seventh day is a Sabbath to the Lord your God. On it you shall not do any work, neither you, nor your son or daughter, nor your male or female servant, nor your animals, nor any foreigner residing in your towns.  For in six days the Lord made the heavens and the earth, the sea, and all that is in them, but he rested on the seventh day. Therefore the Lord blessed the Sabbath day and made it holy.” Exodus 20: 8-11

The root word ‘shabhath’ in Hebrew means to: desist, cease, or rest.

As Christians we honour God, our bodies, and our minds by taking meaningful and intentional time to rest. Despite Sabbath being a great way for self-renewal, it is also a commandment. It sounds unbelievable that God would have to command us to take some time to rest, but I think God knows very well that in a world of injustice, rest would sometimes become a luxury afforded to only the fortunate.

Those of us with ADHD have an additional need for rest and ceasing from non-stop activity and even more importantly non-stop thinking. With attention deficit, it can be difficult to unwind our minds; we spend much energy hyper focusing, worrying, thinking, stressing, and daydreaming. No wonder some of us are more easily fatigued than the average person.

Relax

When we don’t take time to rest, our executive functioning becomes an even greater challenge than it already is. A lack of rest from work and other activities prevents us from being able to manage some of the following executive functions: keeping track of time and finishing our work on time; keeping track of more than one thing at a time; changing course in the midst of reading, writing, or speaking; censoring inappropriate thoughts or behaviours; remembering details.

In addition to resting, regular Sabbaths are an opportunity to spend quality and quantity time with God. This time of ceasing from the mundane gives us extra time to spend on spiritual matters. Having that extra time can be used for things like personal musical worship, extended study of the bible or devotionals, going for physically non-strenuous walks or bike rides, it might even mean sleeping in and lying in bed for a few extra hours.

Then he said to them, “The Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath.” Mark 2:27

Some people are quite rigid about how they define and live a Sabbath life, but I’m not here to tell you exactly how you are to honour this commandment. Jesus warned us about taking God’s commandments to ridiculous levels. Creating appropriate ways of experiencing holy rest is going to be different for everyone. I work shift work and there is no way that I would be able to dedicate every single Sunday as a Sabbath day. I also don’t use it as a day to unplug from technology because listening to sermons online and enjoying classical music via my laptop is very relaxing for me.

Prayerfully consider when and how you will engage in holy rest. Regardless of how you choose to develop this spiritual discipline, we do so remembering that this is a time to connect with God by giving our body and mind intentional rest. By connecting with God and our self, we are then better equipped to be in community with others in our personal life and our work life.

24-6 or 24-7 ?

Sabbath Considerations:

Is your spouse and/or children supportive and respectful of your Sabbath?

What will you be doing and not doing during this time of rest?

What does holy rest mean to you? What does it look like in your life?

How are you connecting with God during this time? How are you connecting to your self during this time?

 

 

Detox Your Internet Time

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Source: lovlierspread wp.com

Ooooh the internet! Such an amazing invention. Such a great way to waste valuable time. I appreciate the internet, I remember the days when we didn’t have this world changing technology. Back in the day if I needed information, I had to pick up the phone and rely on the skills, talent, and knowledge of the professional on the other end to answer my inquiries. I also had to go in person to various places to get the information and resources that I needed. It wasn’t the end of the world, we had no other choices back then. We did what we had to do, but I can honestly say, I would never want our culture to regress to being  without internet.

My issue with the internet and smartphones is that if we don’t use them properly, our bad habits begin to influence us more than the benefits. With ADHD it is even more imperative that we be aware of how we use our devices. It doesn’t matter if everyone else has bad technology habits; they meet their deadlines and goals, they likely don’t have co-morbid disorders, and they don’t have issues with impairment of executive functions.

I’m not going to suggest taking an Internet Hiatus or going without your Smartphone for whatever period of time, but I will encourage you to stop and take some time to consider and evaluate how much unnecessary and wasteful time you spent with information technology. 

Ecclesiastes 9.10

I wasn’t feeling well this weekend and spent a lot of time resting. I didn’t have much energy to go about, so I used this opportunity to declutter my phone and various things on my computer. I was amazed at the things I cleared out. I encourage you to make a list of various types of technology that you use and find ways to decrease their distraction temptation and how you can decrease the time you waste using some of these apps and products. At the end of this page are some of the changes I made for myself.

God wants us to be wise with our time because our life is precious. The challenges of self-monitoring and inhibition can’t be used as excuses; we get the same amount of hours, minutes, and seconds in our days as anyone else. We need to be diligent in making sure our free time is used as the gift that it is.

Here is a link to The Sophia Project, an easy reading article where she breaks down how to do a Social Media Detox http://www.thesophiaproject.net/detox/

This is the end of this post. If you’d like to see one example of decreasing and decluttering from Internet/Smartphone distractions, you can read below my personal account of how I did this for myself.


 

Changes That I Have Made For Myself : 

Computer Files: I deleted many files and managed to organize what remained for easier retrieval of information.

Desktop: It was a mess, way too much information. I cleaned it up and now it doesn’t look so messy and overwhelming

Pinterest: I had too many pins. What exactly am I going to do will all the stuff I pin. Am I going to make 200 recipes this year? Probably not. I decreased some boards and cleared out some of the pins. I hate to think of how much time I have spent pinning. I decided that part of my Internet Hiatus will involve no more pinning for the rest of August.

Twitter: I unfortunately signed up for Twitter because all the articles providing Blogging newbie advice said having this was a must. I decided that for the rest of August I would keep to a maximum of 2 Tweets a day. I’m not a business woman, I don’t have a business to sell, so why should I be on Twitter all day tweeting. I also don’t have the time.

FB: I took a partial hiatus from my personal FB account. Again, I can easily spend time reading all sorts of stuff and flipping through endless albums on Friends’ pages. I also don’t need to see anymore cute kitten pictures or doggy jokes. I only check the messages (not the news feed) once a day as FB is the best way for me to communicate with some people.

Tumblr: Why does Tumblr exist? I’m not sure. This is one that I will actually delete unless someone tells me how it can benefit me. It seems like a great way for people to showcase their abs and not much more.

Instagram: I don’t post. I have an account and I don’t use it. Again, is there something on Instagram that I can’t do on FB or Google+ ? Yes, I know, the pictures look neat, but again, my time is more precious than neat looking photo effects. Besides, if it’s on Instagram, it’ll end up on FB anyways.

Google+: I have an account, again because of blogging, but I don’t invest time in G+. When I blog, the article automatically posts to Google. This saves me time and prevents the temptation to look around, comment, and other stuff.

Smartphone:I deleted lots of time wasting apps. They are time wasters for me, not necessarily for others. I also got rid of a lot of calendars and planners. I only use two planners on my phone. I kept things that don’t provide much distraction such as apps related to: weather, GPS, running, food points tracker, e-reader. Get rid of FB, Pinterest, and tempting games. I also cleared up the various screens. Decluttering the screens that you look at on your phone and computer make for a clearer mind. 

Use of phone: I don’t make it a habit to chronically check my phone. I have various alerts and a very bright blinking light that lets me know if someone has called, text, or emailed. If any of these go off, then and only then will I look at my phone. Why do people keep picking up their phones and checking it all the time, as if this will automatically produce communication.

I also don’t like when people I am with answer their phone in the midst of our conversation or reply to texts unless the matter is urgent and timely. Wait until later to reply. This is a method I use for managing my time as well, it annoys people, but I don’t want to be a slave to my phone. I reply to people when the opportunity arises.

RSS Reader: I use this so that all the blogs and websites that I like to read are kept in one place. I don’t need to check the websites and this prevents me from becoming lost in the habit of  procrastination by reading. Once a month I delete websites and blogs that I don’t keep up with. Again, the less there is to be distracted by, the better.

Thanks for reading through my list. Hopefully it provided a good example for those who may not know where and how to start. If internet and smartphone distraction is a problem, prayerfully consider how you can lessen these time wasters in your life. I am confident that for some of you it will lead to less anxiety, mindless reading, consumption of useless information, and provide one less way for you to avoid completing the things  you would be better off doing instead. Time is valuable and so are you!

 

Introvert + ADHD= Huh?

Time to Introvert!
Time to Introvert!

Introvert ADHD

Introverted persons with ADHD really do exist! Some might be thinking, “How can someone be introverted when all the symptoms of ADHD are extroverted.” Well, the idea that people with ADHD are extroverts usually stems from cultural misunderstandings as to what ADHD is, and their symptoms.

Introvert:

“Introversion (I)

I like getting my energy from dealing with the ideas, pictures, memories, and reactions that are inside my head, in my inner world. I often prefer doing things alone or with one or two people I feel comfortable with. I take time to reflect so that I have a clear idea of what I’ll be doing when I decide to act. Ideas are almost solid things for me. Sometimes I like the idea of something better than the real thing. ” Adapted from Looking at Type: The Fundamentals, by Charles R. Martin (CAPT 1997)” From: myersbriggs.org

I’m not certified in MBTI assesments, but if these are the characteristics of Introversion and you as a person with ADHD have these temperaments, then it would be fair to say that you might very well be an introvert.

I am an introvert. On the MBTI I have always scored as an INTJ. People are surprised to find that I am an introvert. I then have to go through the explanation that introverts are not cave dwellers who spend all their time hiding from fellow human beings. My ADHD symptoms also make it a bit more difficult for others to sense my introversion.

People forget that there are 8 types of introverts within the MBTI. It wouldn’t be realistic to believe that all introverts, or extroverts were the same.

source: vox.com
source: vox.com

The challenge with ADHD is to be aware of any behavioural problems associated with your specific introvert type. Being an introvert is perfectly healthy, but for instance, it is not healthy to spend too much time alone or too much time thinking about solutions without being able to make decisions within a timely manner. With ADHD it is easy for the positives of being an introvert to become negatives.

Christians tend to their introverted needs with some of the following:

Through participation is liturgical traditions and creeds

Volunteering and serving within the church behind the scenes (e.g. Media, Kitchen, Administration)

A regular and consistent habit of prayer and meditation (in solitude)

Partaking in daily devotionals and times of deep reflection

Having a preference for small group gatherings (e.g. bible study, mom and tot groups)

Being an introvert isn’t exclusive to Inattentive-ADHD.

From WebMD:

  • Combined ADHD (the most common subtype), which involves symptoms of of both inattentiveness and hyperactivity/impulsivity
  • Inattentive ADHD (previously known as ADD), which is marked by impaired attention and concentration
  • Hyperactive-impulsive ADHD, which is marked by hyperactivity without inattentiveness

If you notice, the criteria above does not match the MBTI description of an introvert. Introversion is not an impairment of attention and concentration. Introversion is not the same as inattentive.  An extroverted person can have Inattentive-ADHD and an introverted person can have Hyperactive-impulsive or Combined ADHD.

A Comparison
A Comparison

Life Calling: God’s Way vs. the ADHD Way

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The one labelled “the easy way”, is what I’m going to call “God’s way”. The one labelled “my way” is exactly that, “my way” of doing things. ADHD has this wonderful ability to take plans and paths that make perfectly good sense and turn them into hot messes.

Living to follow the Will of God is a more difficult task for believers with ADHD. It’s just too easy to be dragged into too many directions while honestly aiming to follow the divine path that God has laid out for us.

We are vulnerable for the following reasons:

  • -So much creativity that one has no idea where to start, or when you do start, you abandon that method for whatever new way you’ve come up with
  • -Impatience with God’s plan and His timing
  • -There is that habit of wanting things done “our way” when dealing with others
  • -Procrastination, which means things that need to be finished in order to move ahead don’t get completed or they take longer than would be reasonable
  • -Being moody and emotional with others, this causes problems with those around us, those who are there supporting us
  • -Limited ability to pay enough  attention to those who are there to be your advisors, teachers, mentors, etc. (any formal learning environment)

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All I can say is this; don’t let ADHD symptoms prevent you from missing out on the best of what God has called you to do and to be; for yourself and for others. This is why it’s so important for those of us as believers in Christ to be committed to managing our ADHD. We will always have ADHD, there is nothing we can do about that, but we don’t always have to live with un-managed symptoms. I don’t ever want to look back at my life in my later years and see just how much untreated and unmanaged symptoms took way from my ability to live fully devoted to God and my life’s calling.

God is full of grace, mercy, and understanding, He tells us this through scripture. He does not see those with ADHD as loving Him less, or being more sinful. The difference between those with ADHD and the average Christian population is that we are much more vulnerable to having a walk of faith that looks like the “my way” illustration at the beginning of  this post.

Be extra aware of how your symptoms are interfering with your walk of faith. I’ve recommended this before, but I can’t speak enough of doing a daily self inventory or self-examen. In our time of reflection and prayer with God, we are able to look back at our day and use it as a way to stay focused on both our relationship with God and our interactions with the world (family, friends, work, strangers, etc.)

Resources:

Examen

http://www.ignatianspirituality.com/ignatian-prayer/the-examen/

http://www.loyolapress.com/prayerfully-reviewing-your-day-daily-examen.htm

Personal Goal Setting (not specifically for those with ADHD)

http://www.mindtools.com/page6.html

 

The ADHD Financial Drain

 

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In the media we are bombarded with images of successful (i.e. rich) celebrities who have ADHD. There’s Justin Timberlake, Will Smith, Sir. Richard Branson, Jim Carey, and Whoopi Goldberg to name a few. The millions of dollars that they have earned is impressive, but we also have to remember that with all that money comes a wonderful helper called a financial manager.

Proper money management is something that is noted as a common struggle for those with ADHD. These issues with money are usually attributed to constant impulsive shopping, making risky financial decisions, an inability to keep bill payments organized, along with an absence of financial goals.

For myself it has been a major challenge to save money. I worked hard to pay off my consumer debt and I never want to have to do that again. I only have one credit card and it has a measly $500 limit. For me, this was perfect as it ensured that I would not be able to be in debt again. If I want to purchase something I have no choice but to pay cash for my items. Not being able to accumulate items that I can’t afford has left my living spaces clutter free and my mind free from worry about having to pay for things I couldn’t afford in the first place.

“6 Of course, there is great gain in godliness combined with contentment; 7 for we brought nothing into the world, so that we can take nothing out of it; 8 but if we have food and clothing, we will be content with these.” 1 Timothy 6:6-8

Pretty much!
Pretty much!

In life, what we need is only the basics for survival: food, clothing, shelter; anything beyond these are extras. If your ADHD is causing you to have problems meeting those basic needs you are in serious trouble.

As Christians with ADHD it is important to manage money well. The ability to earn money is a blessing and this is one of the reasons we are told to be good stewards with what we have. Being able to earn enough money to enjoy all the extras in life feels great and there is nothing wrong with this, but we still need to be mindful of how we spend our “fun” money.

It might be difficult for some people to admit financial defeat, but it is necessary to do so in order to make the required changes that will lead to being free from the burden of financial irresponsibility. Chances are, there are many people you know who are having financial difficulty, but they don’t speak about it openly. Our culture tells us that money is a private matter.

The following is a short sampling of what is available for those who need to get their spending habits under control. It’s best to find resources for those with ADHD, however, regular money-management materials can work just as well. The difference is that you will need to remember what your ADHD weaknesses and strengths are when deciding which method will work best for you.

Resources:

Here is a helpful resource from CHADD for those who need help with managing money. http://www.help4adhd.org/living/WWK17

Dave Ramsey

http://www.daveramsey.com/tools/budget-forms/

Suze Orman

http://www.suzeorman.com/suze-tools/

Jacqueline Sinfield

http://untappedbrilliance.com/adhd-and-money

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