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An ADHD New Year 2018

When the years keep kicking your butt!

Happy New Year! We have all been fortunate to see another year begin. Where I live we have spent the past week enduring temperatures in the -30s (Celsius) with the windchill factor. There were times where it reached -44. This cold weather didn’t slow people down, it was still the Christmas holiday season. I can’t help but think that if people had to go to their regular 9-5 job, many them would have found a reason not to make it into work.

I wish I could say I am excited about the New Year, but honestly, nothing changed for me personally between December 31, 2017 and January 1st, 2018. The start of a new year can lead to people developing grad dreams, unrealistic goals, and the set up for a year of expectations for which we expect other people to fulfill for us. Thankfully new year’s resolutions continue to fall out of fashion. The hectic winter holiday season combined with the mixture of darkness and cold weather doesn’t make for an ideal occasion to develop plans for a more successful life.

This year I continue with choosing one word as my focus for the year. For 2018 I have chosen the word Celebrate.

“a) to do something special or enjoyable for an important event, occasion, holiday, etc.

(b) to praise (someone or something) :to say that (someone or something) is great or important” Webster’s Dictionary Online

 

This verb was heavy on my heart over the past few months. My job had left me not wanting to do much once I got home from work each evening, and with each passing weekend I became more hibernated, not having the energy to do much and instead using days off to catch up on much needed sleep.

A change of employment has left me with much more energy and a greater desire to celebrate the good things in life. I work with low-income populations and those who are struggling with issues such as substance abuse and mental health issues. When one is working in an emotionally draining field, having fun and replenishing one’s spirit is an absolute necessity. I decided it was time that I not feel guilty for engaging in activities that I enjoy or celebrating the mundane things in life which bring me joy.

I didn’t want this to be an entirely religious experience or something to turn into a rigid spiritual discipline. I want to develop the ability to celebrate being alive, meeting simple milestones, and being joyful about whatever I choose. I’m not looking to become selfish, I only desire to be able to celebrate the good things that come into my life. Yes, there are suffering people in the world, but I also need to be realistic and accept the fact that it would be a sin not to express thankfulness, joy, and celebration for what I do have in my life.

With severe ADHD it is important to celebrate those small achievements. It is a cause for celebration when you actually look at your day planner seven days in a row. It is a call for celebration when you make it to work on time every week for an entire month.

Having adult ADHD requires being able to celebrate in order to counteract the damage caused by constantly beating one’s self up for all the barriers that come with this disorder. Celebration allows us to feel emotions that don’t involve self-pity, brain fog, forgetfulness, restlessness, and disorganization.

Unless you already have good time management, success with goal achievements, and excellent executive functioning skills; making new year’s resolutions might not be the best thing for you to attempt at this time. That list you make during the first week of January, will likely end up being something you add to your already long list of things you need to be doing, but aren’t.

Having a personal word for the year is great because it isn’t about achieving goals, mastering a to-do list, or reaching a destination. It is about opening yourself to personal growth and intentionally learning new things about you and the world you navigate. You can’t control how this guiding word is going to affect you, you leave yourself open and flexible to whatever and however God chooses to transform you.

I highly recommend checking out some websites and other blogs to learn more about choosing one word for the year. Each person approaches the process differently, but one thing is for sure, everyone is changed by their word throughout the year. Whether you choose to pursue new year’s resolutions or opt for having a guiding word for 2018, I wish you all the best in this year’s journey, and the wonderful blessings offered to us all from our heavenly father!

Happy New Year!

Myoneword.org 

http://www.faithgateway.com/what-is-my-one-word/#.WksOf2inHIU

http://oneword365.com/

https://margaretfeinberg.com/whats-one-word-2017-free-download/

 

 

 

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ADHD and a Not So New Year

 

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Happy New Year! Welcome to 2017. I’m looking forward to all the great possibilities that will be presented to me this year. My hope is that as you read this, you are looking forward to the good things this calendar year has to offer you.

As I have been doing for the past few years, I have chosen to pass on making new year’s resolutions. Instead, I continue to choose one word and one verse to be my focus for the year.

This year my word is Ephphatha, an Aramaic word meaning “be opened”. The word is taken from Mark 7:34 where Jesus heals a mute and deaf man. The pronunciation is “EHF-uh-thuh”. My verse for the year is from the Book of Ecclesiasus/Sirach 1:23-24 (found in the Apocrypha) “A patient person puts up with things until the right time comes: but his joy will break out in the end. Till the time comes he keeps his thoughts to himself, and many a lip will affirm how wise he is.”

As a person with ADHD I’ve accepted that a New Year doesn’t mean a new me. The date on the calendar doesn’t mean anything. I and others with ADHD can’t make a New Year’s resolution to quit ADHD or resolve to have less ADHD. Our disorder is here and it’s not going anywhere.

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There is no need to give into the idea of needing to make changes in January or create resolutions that you will likely not maintain. Setting goals and making changes takes time; and waking up on January 1st after several days of over eating, reduced sleep, and keeping up with all the holiday festivities is not the right time for anyone to make unprepared life changing decisions.

Because I was like many people who made resolutions and forgot what they were by the end of the first week of each January that passed by, I knew that whatever was on my list wasn’t important to me. If I had considered these resolutions important I would have remembered them and committed to achieving them by the end of the year. If something is important to you, you will commit to it. You might not be perfect at it, you might have days where you fall behind, or struggle, but you will still be committed to it and it will show by your actions, not your words.

At the beginning of each January I do a review of the previous year. I pull out that paper where my one word and verse are written and the hopes that I had for the then upcoming year.

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As you make your way through the first month of the year, try doing a self-reflective review of the previous year, ask yourself some of these questions:

What obstacles did you overcome?

 

What did you accomplish during the year?

 

What are some things that you learned?

 

What changed about you?

 

Were you satisfied about your life?

 

What would have liked to accomplish but didn’t?

 

What are some things you learned about yourself?

 

How would you rate the quality of your relationships (friends/family/co-workers) during the past year?

What were your hobbies/recreational activities/fun times from the past year?

After you review your past year, celebrate. Even if the past year was difficult for you, there is still something to celebrate. You are alive, you made it into 2017 and that is a gift that millions of people around the world didn’t get.

Life never goes exactly as we plan, and that isn’t a sign of failure, it’s a natural part of life. This is why I’m not a fan of new year resolutions; why start of the year with plans and goals you have no intention of achieving. Start the year off being realistic. With ADHD we have a tendency to jump from one thing to another, leaving many ideas and plans incomplete. The best way to have a great and prosperous year is to be honest with yourself and others about what you can do and are willing to do.

Whatever you choose to focus on during 2017, I wish you the best. I wish you peace, transformation, and personal growth; these are some of the most important accomplishments a person can aim for.