As I write this Christmas Day is pretty much over. All the gifts have been opened, people are tired, the dishes have been washed, and people are hungry again, but don’t want to have a 5th helping of dry turkey with lumpy microwaved turkey. Others are upset, angry, bitter about something somebody said or did during the evening.
For some, Christmas Day has been a great day. They ate well, spent time with those they love, and received gifts they actually wanted.
Now that Christmas is over, it’s time to start looking towards the new year, 2019. During the last week of December I always grow impatient waiting for the calendar year to come to an end. I’m not sure why I am in such a hurry with time, it’s not as if my life is going to significantly change because December 31 and January 1.
This year my anxiousness is the result of shattered dreams, the realization that something I worked hard on and invested all my money into was not going to happen. I had been mislead by the person I was collaborating with and she plugged the plug on a ministry project.
With Adult ADHD, many of our dreams and goals end up going nowhere. Some become excited about an idea and before they can start working on it become interested in something else that they likely won’t start or finish.
There are those who started something , worked hard for a while and then became overwhelmed by the “boring”, detail oriented tasks. For others, they became overwhelmed while aiming to be organized, slowly falling behind on tasks, deadlines, and responsibilities. Eventually they finish all that needed to be done, but barely, and what was completed is sub par. Their work covered in anxiety, depression, exhaustion, and regret.
Then there are those who got stuff done. They accomplished what they set out to do this year and they did it well. Their ADHD helped bring out their creativity and energy. Their hyper focus did them well in learning new information, skills, and techniques.
Regardless of how your 2018 will or has ended, you’re still alive, you have all of 2019 to accomplish new goals. Leave the failures of 2018 where it belongs, in the past. Take the habits, accomplishments, gains, and lessons from the past year into 2019 and allow them to help you continue on the path to doing well.
As the holiday season comes to an end, take some quiet time to pray and reflect on the past year and plan ahead for 2019.
What are you most proud of from 2018? What are you least proud of?
What had you feeling stuck? How will you become “unstuck” ?
What were you most and least excited or passionate about?
Did you have self-compassion and grace for yourself? How about for others?
Are there any grudges that you are holding onto that you will be bringing into the new year? How can you begin to let go of them.?
What activities did you spend most of your free time engaged in? Will you continue to give the same amount of time to these activities for the new year?
What ways did you practice self-care?
What condition were your various relationships in? What will you need to, or what do you want to change about any of these relationships?
What were some new things you learned? Are there intentional things you are looking forward to learning?
Did you overcome any challenges? How will that impact your future?
What songs did you enjoy singing along to or found yourself humming when the music wasn’t playing?
What was your spiritual life like? Do you feel you grew closer or further away from God? What spiritual disciplines will you focus on in the new year?
What were some of your biggest obstacles this past year?
What were some instances where you felt relaxed and free to just be yourself?
How much of a positive or negative impact did your ADHD symptoms have on you this past year: work/family/spirituality/friendships/finances/creativity/health/fitness?
What are some of the symptoms of Adult ADHD you most need to work on managing or tending to this coming year? What worked and didn’t work for you last year?